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Why do people say "It might never happen" ?!
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Quote From eska:

Small mindedness


You guys rock.

I love intelligent people.

another break in my heart and a deep one too
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Dude/dudette, cheer the f**k up you have got a PhD for Christ's sake.

You are the elite.

I would give everything I own to be in your situation right now.

I don't have a PhD but your attachment to your supervisor obviously comes from your being in his company for so long and you have come to rely on that support. Your attachment is emotional. You need to focus your emotions before you can be of any use to yourself.

Go on holiday, go backpacking with some hippies, go homeless for three months, none of it matters, you already have your PhD.

I would trade positions with you in an instant. I would sell my soul to be where you are. You need to get it into perspective.

Remember how far you have come and that no-one can take that from off you.

You need to build your new life so you have to take some time out and focus your chi.

Try a mystical and spiritual adventure into the unknown. Watch Forest Gump then walk round the world or something.

When you come back it will all become clear.



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1. a keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense; skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations.
2. a keen sense of what is appropriate, tasteful, or aesthetically pleasing; taste; discrimination.
3. touch or the sense of touch.

sensitive
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1. endowed with sensation; having perception through the senses.
2. having acute mental or emotional sensibility; aware of and responsive to the feelings of others.
3. involving work, duties, or information of a highly secret or delicate nature, esp. in government: a sensitive position in the State


Yeah maybe your right.

I suppose I'm no use in a post-doc forum; I'll come back in four to ten years.

Keep your chin up OP you've come this far I highly doubt you'll helter skelter back to zero any time soon.

Master failure and girlfriend is kicking me out - Please Help!
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Quote From satchi:

hi huxley
looks like u reached a decision (somewhat?)
don't give up and good luck :-)
satchi


Yeah I am a lot better than I was last week.

I'm moving back to my home country where I won't give up until it kills me.

She says she'll join me in a year.

But I don't really care if she does or not.

She's useless for support.

Time to support myself.



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Why do people say "It might never happen" ?!
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Very good answer Sarah.

another break in my heart and a deep one too
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Dude/dudette, cheer the f**k up you have got a PhD for Christ's sake.

You are the elite.

I would give everything I own to be in your situation right now.

I don't have a PhD but your attachment to your supervisor obviously comes from your being in his company for so long and you have come to rely on that support. Your attachment is emotional. You need to focus your emotions before you can be of any use to yourself.

Go on holiday, go backpacking with some hippies, go homeless for three months, none of it matters, you already have your PhD.

I would trade positions with you in an instant. I would sell my soul to be where you are. You need to get it into perspective.

Remember how far you have come and that no-one can take that from off you.

You need to build your new life so you have to take some time out and focus your chi.

Try a mystical and spiritual adventure into the unknown. Watch Forest Gump then walk round the world or something.

When you come back it will all become clear.

Does it ever stop?!
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You need to stop caring.

Nothing matters.

Once you've got that sorted the nerves will disappear.

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Why do people say "It might never happen" ?!
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Sometimes when I tell people it is my goal to get a PhD some say (amongst other things) "It might never happen".

Why do people say that? It really annoys me.

What do they know that I don't?

Why are they so negative?

For me this type of talk is useless.

What is the point of saying that to a person that obviously cares about his or her own future?

Why the negativity?

I know I am very good at my subject and I have the paper work to prove it.

What gives random people the right to judge my situation based on no knowledge of me whatsoever?

:-s

Cheers.

Master failure and girlfriend is kicking me out - Please Help!
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Quote From satchi:

hi huxley
glad to hear that you are ok and are willing to go "on the mend".
take time away to reflect, repair and recover,
remember that the feelings of uselessness are only temporary,
they will go away faster if you let them go.

take care and do keep in touch.
good luck
satchi


Things are going better with my girlfriend now so I feel better.

I feel less useless today.

I am planning my future academia as we speak.

I will get this phD if it kills me.

Which it might.

;(

Master failure and girlfriend is kicking me out - Please Help!
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Quote From satchi:

hi huxley
sorry to hear of your situation. Nothing can change what has happened. My best advice to you is to use the time you have (when you return to your home country) to reflect on yourself and your life aims.

Did you do a masters (in a foreign country) because you really wanted to do it (in a foreign language) or you did this so you could be with your girlfriend? What do you really want to do with your life? Do you have to get a masters degree for it?

You said you want to work in a low responsibility job to keep your stress levels low. The truth is, no matter what you do, there will be stress everywhere. Even with a simple job such as a cleaner, there will still be some stress. We cannot avoid stress. It is part of Life. All of us have to learn to deal with stress and manage ourselves to cope with it.

Don't be paranoid about the academics at your present uni giving you negative references. Let it go. Worrying about references from your undergrad professors will not change anything. If one of them has written you excellent references in the past, it may be possible that she will help you again. She might be very busy. Don't worry yourself over this.

You need to get yourself together first.
You cannot be happy with anything if you are not happy with yourself.
satchi



Thanks for your useful reply.

I guess your questions were to help me think it through but I'll write some answers anyway.

I started the masters here because I wanted to be with my girlfriend.

I have, for the last ten years, wanted a PhD. However joining the police popped into my head for some bizarre reason today.

So I'm a bit lost at the moment. I need to reflect as you said.

You're right about the stress. I can handle stress. I just don't want to be a high school teacher.

You're right I have to get myself together.

I just feel useless.

I will have to rebuild all by myself, no point relying on my girlfriend.

Thanks for your useful reply.

References - what if ...
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On second thoughts just get the article if you really need it.

It ain't worth the risk.

References - what if ...
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You can reference anything you want including the guy in the pub.

However someone might ask you to justify/explain your souces at some point.

I suppose it depends on what exactly you are using the source for and how much you need to know about it.

Make sure you write and know, in enough depth, what you have got to write and know.

I suppose judging this can be hard depending on the circumstances.

If you know exactly what the criteria for evaluation are and what questions you are likely to be asked this will always help but it seems this information is often not forthcoming until it is too late, at least until the next time anyway.

If you have enough information maybe you could just summarise the whole argument of the article using the abstract then just reference the article as if you've read it.

This may be risky though if there came a time you were asked to defend this point by someone else who had already read the whole article.

Master failure and girlfriend is kicking me out - Please Help!
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My problem:

I am in a foreign country doing a Masters using a language which I only have two years of experience of. My supervisor, who has not helped me at all structure or approach a 30, 000 word dissertation (the most I have ever written is 8000), gave me a useful plan/structure after the viva which he said I failed. Thank you sir. He never replied to my emails and gave really vague advice on only two short occassions. I had no time to read last semester due to working full-time. My girlfriend of four years (whom I moved to this country for two years ago) is kicking me out because she doesn't want to support me through the three years it will take me to get my foreign language up to the level that is required to pass this course.

So I'm going to have to go back to my home country without her. She said she'll join me in a year. I don't know if I believe her. She refuses to support me emotionally through this hard time, she just goes out with her family when she has any spare time at the weekends. She has done this the last five weekends. I have no friends here. Sounds funny I know but it ain't.

I will have to work in my home country for a year while living with my dad to fund a taught MLitt to start in August 2011.

I am a qualified secondary school teacher but I want to work in a low responsibility job to keep my stress levels as low as possible. Is this a bad idea? Will PhD admissions take this into account?

I have chosen a taught MLitt in a high quality Uni in which the thesis is only 15, 000 words and many hours are spent on research methodology, planning, etc, because there was a big gap between my 4 year degree (2:1) final thesis of 8000 words and this 30,000 word thesis in this country. Here there was no consideration taken of my prior learning and I was just left to flounder. No advanced research skills were taught and my advisor didn't help. Am I just stupid? It feels this way. But I got really good grades in my undergrad when I knew where I stood.

Is it a bad idea to take a taught MLitt? Am I stupid for not knowing how to approach the 30, 000 word thesis?

I am also paranoid about the academics at this Uni (on a completely different continent to my prospective Uni) telling my prospective Uni that I am arrogant, disrespectful because I complained about their standards of education a couple of times. Is this completely irrational? I fell like I'm going mad.

Also I am worried about my references I have asked for from my two Undergrad Professors. I wrote to them telling them the situation that I have to quit here due to financial reasons. Is it possible they won't provide references because they might think I am not a good student?

One of the professors has written me two excellent references in the past but maybe she won't write another one? Maybe there is a limit to the number of references they will write?

Please say what you think of what I wrote! I feel like everything good in my life has died.