Hi, I'm a second year PhD student, a mum to 2 girls and my husband completed his PhD when the children were babies so I can maybe understand how both of you feel. I understand your wife feeling bored being at home with a baby and I totally know where she is coming from saying that she never sees you! I also understand how hard it is to fit the PhD round family life. But your just starting out so you must get this sorted now - the pressures of the PhD will only get worse. I find that I have to work round school/nursery hours and after the children are in bed, its non-negotiable, just the way it has to be. Maybe you can be at home in the evenings to let your wife go out to do a class or go to the gym, can you take the baby for a day at the weekend to give your wife time to herself? I found that helpful when I was struggling with young children.