In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure

Hi Luis Santa Maria,
Your research is quite interesting! as well as your name:P
May i ask if you are male or female?

All the best

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Work independently is not an issue for me. I have no experience on my research subject at all, since anything i learned at the past is not applicable, at least not directly.
It is the case of being asked to do something that is not possible to do it yourself. You are trying, searching here and there but at the end you go to your supervisor saying i couldn't do it. Now the supervisor might be helpfull and suggest a solution or like in my case starting blaming you for being incapable of doing anything.

I have been trully unhappy and depressed for 9 months and counting. I know that the best way to stop being depressed is to leave. Yet what stops me from doing it is the fear of the unknown. The fear of what others(future employers or other supervisors) might say about me quiting. I know there is a perfectly good reason for leaving yet the idea of quiting and not finishing (and overcome any obstacles) what i started, worries me. And since i feel like this, i assume others might react in the same way,wondering whether or not i am a looser and a quitter.
Having said that,i have to admit that even the idea of continuing with what i am doing at the moment with the same supervisor drives me crazy.

Hi theanniversary21, I couldn't agree more to what your saying.
However it is the case that we need to look deep inside ourselves and ask why are we doing this and where does it head to.
It seems that we are both stuck in a situation that is quite unpleasant and we are trying to find an escape route. Yet our enviroment imposes certain standardised concepts that put a break on any effort to escape.

Having a healthy relationship with your supervisor usually means you're more satisfied with the work you do and have less stress.

You usually can't change your supervisor's behavior, but you can nurture the quality of the relationship. Here are some tips to keep the relationship healthy.

* Be positive. When things go wrong, a positive attitude means a lot to people who work with you, including your supervisor. Communicate with questions or suggestions, rather than complaints. Volunteer suggestions to mitigate the problem, and don't be offended if they're not always implemented.
* Manage your anger. Blowing up in front of your supervisor solves nothing, but demonstrates clearly that you can't control your emotions. This doesn't mean you have to sit and stew when you're angry. But learn how to communicate your anger appropriately. If anger management is difficult for you, sign up for a course to help you deal with it.

This is an email i exchange with my supervisor:

Me: Please don't take me wrong, but i feel that you have already made your mind that i should have not doing this PhD and that i am useless in whatever i am doing and im wasting your time. ...there is anything i can do to change that.Nevertheless i am not blame you for that, since it seems that indeed i haven't met your expectations.

Supervisor:I have not said that you are useless or wasting my time.
As you can notice, I actually spent quite significant amount of time
for this project and for you. Please do not produce another assumption on yourself and myself.

I had a talk with my supervisor about the overall "progress" of my project...He sugested that i can change project and try something that is "easier" from what im doing at the moment.
However i have already started writing the report for my current project and with only 2 months left before submitting i really can't see how changing project that will help...

...it is normal to feel lost in the beginning of your PhD. I think the relation between a PhD student and his supervisor is a complex one...

What is not normal is to have a supervisor who ignores every "achievement" and remembers only negative thinks, who pays no attention whatsoever to what your saying, who has meetings with you in the present of another student,who doesn't make even the slightest effort to concentrate during meetings and keep checking his emails or asking the other student to check out if there are shower facilities at Honolulu airport!!!....

about the lack of progress and his responsibility about it.

From my part i know im working really hard but he is not appreciate any effort. He blames me for not understanding the project and more or less he is saying that im useless in everything ...
I can't be that useless!

Has anyone had enough and confronted his/her supervisor?
I am in the 9nth month of first year PhD and counting ,without any progress and i cant continue any more. Im thinking to confront my supervisor as i can't kept silent anymore! It drives me crazy. I have talked only to my advisor and university counselor because i dont want to confront my supervisor... after all he is going to decide if ill continue with PhD or not.

I have this strange feeling that my death warrand is allready signed and the only thing that is left is to be executed...during viva...
So i either stay and fight or give it up ....

- In March I decided to apply to other unis, and have now been offered -a place, with funding, elsewhere, but I officially have to start again -from day one of first year. Should I go?
Hi,
When you say that you have been offered a place,that includes going through an interview? If yes, did they ask why you want to drop your current PhD?
I desperately want to change PhD topic (supervisor) but i don't know how to explain it potential supervisors.

I am in my first 8 months of my PhD without any progress at all. I have no results and nothing to write in my transfer report.
I was trying hard all the past 8 months ,not going out and spending most of my time trying to understand what i am doing.
My supervisor insists that i should concetrate on my PhD and spend even more time on it. More or less he is saying that i should avoid doing anything that is not directly related to my project!!! he doesn't even allow me to attend conferences in my study area as i am not presenting anything (so much for networking...).
Now after all those months of meaningless "isolation" i have started questioning whether i should continue or no t...