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Supervisor/Supervisee Relationship- What's Appropriate?
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You need to remember, you are NOT like a married couple. For no married couple does their relationship/flirting/ etc... put their professional lives at risk. If you do take things further with your supervisor he will no longer be your supervisor; Universities have codes of conduct about this sort of thing. Also, there are extreme moral issues at stake here. Many staff in your department may have met his wife. It's not going to go well for either of you.
You may have misread his behaviour, and as a result yours may be inappropriate. I can;t really see any circumstances under which telling your sup to 'f off' even in a jokey way is a good idea (to be honest, it seems a rather immature way to deal with friends....).
I've been to social occasions with my supervisor (with others present) including where lots of alcohol is available. We still tend to 'talk shop' and although I'll ask after his wife and kids, it stops there.

Referances
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First of all you need to learn to spell reference. I'm serious, if you make mistakes like that on your application it will seriously undermine you.
Then you need to recognise that it's part of academics' jobs to write references, so pester away. You MUST use the form the University gives you, otherwise it looks like you can't read. Most referees will make minor modifications to the initial reference they do for you, in order to fit the bill - so it's not likely to be THAT much work for them.
More than one person must have marked your work at undergrad/MSc. They don't want someone who knows what size underwear you take, just someone who can comment on your work.

Trying to change a panel member - good idea? Bad Idea? How difficult is it to do?
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It sounds like you're in a similar field to me.... in which case theoretical differences can make things very difficult...
I think you definitely need to get someone on board in some capacity (either officially or unofficially) to help advise you more appropriately. If you take the attempting to remove someone tack then you'll need to emphasize how your research has gone in an unexpected direction......and someone else is now more relevant for this part of it, but I'm sure you know that already!
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Mortgages and PhD
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I think you can....
As soon as I've prepared the 176 page form that I require you to fill out.
Of course, there is only a 1 in 346 chance that you will actually get the grant, and even then it's unlikely to cover more than your expenses for traveling to the hat shop.

Mortgages and PhD
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No... what we do is:
1. Wait for the proposals.
2. Put the best ones in a hat.
3. Add the worst ones to the same hat.
4. Pick out a name from hat.

Mortgages and PhD
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I can see a PhD thesis in that....
Black humour and gender roles on internet message boards in the 21st Century.
It's got sufficient lashings of obscurity and a New Technologies slant to get those novelty points.
Any takers, any takers?

Mortgages and PhD
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Hypothesis -- I think you've misunderstood what I was getting at.
I have no issue with men/women taking personal choices (in fact this is exactly what I'm getting at.....) I do take issue with people denigrating these choices. And that is what I was getting at with the so-called 'beta male' jibes. In particular the suggestion that women don't want men who are prepared to take on caring roles, and that this is in some way an unattractive quality. Whether this was meant to be funny, or was a 'vague' statement as has been suggested is somewhat irrelevant, because (as has been pointed out below) the use of humour to reinforce stereotypes is really damaging.
Similarly to Shani, I support a Swedish type system when paternity leave is on a par with maternity leave, and individuals are left to make choices.

Mortgages and PhD
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To be honest I'm not particularly convinced that moderators can actually do anything about 'narrow minded' posts....
Taking the previous post into account, I'd be perfectly happy with this except for the fact BHC is making out that society in general/ women view men who take on caring roles negatively. And since we're not living in the 1950s I felt it necessary to attempt a disavowal of this position.
To suggest that women must be the primary care giver, that pregnancy (and then reliance on men) is a 'way out', that men who take on caring roles are 'beta males' (with all the connotations that this brings), is hardly enlightened. Nor do I think that any of (my interpretation) of what's been said be put down to a misunderstanding. I'm all for the live and let live approach to life, but only where it doesn't affect other people. And putting views like this into the public sphere has potentially dire consequences for equality.....

Mortgages and PhD
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As a married woman I find that quite insulting....
I don't think I'd have married someone who wasn't capable of switching over to the full-time (or, at least, predominant) carer role if it was more appropriate. I'm not convinced that I'm particularly unusual. And I'm not sure that would degrade my husband's contribution to the family in any real well, to me or other people.....

Free Health care?
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I'm not sure this is true.
All full time university students are entitled to free prescriptions for example, if they don't get it it's because they haven't filled the relevant form.
As a postgraduate full time-student on a stipend of more than yours I get free prescriptions.

Everyone's pregnant!
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Hehehe....
You know, it's probably better than actually trying....
I went to a wedding last weekend, my husband having told his mates that we were gonna start trying from September (well done him! not....).
So we were being quizzed at said wedding as to whether I was pregnant yet..... note the problem!!!

scholarship application please help
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Right --
You need to look at the course components of the course (you can usually find them on the course website)... it always looks good to mention those that appeal, why, and what relevant background you have.
Strengths, again should be backed up with examples, so here your volunteering comes in. The key thing is never to detail a strength without some background.
Mention where you see yourself going having completed the course..

scholarship application please help
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There are far too many messages like this that fail to show an ounce of independent thinking.
Without knowing your subject/ the nature of the award/ what your strengths are it's pretty much impossible to answer this.
You'd be much wiser attempting something, posting it, and asking what people think.

Ok, need some housing advice
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Sorry I was being blunt.
It'll be tight to live in a decent area. House-shares are much cheaper as well as avoiding the guarantor issue....
But what the lady wants....!

Ok, need some housing advice
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You'll struggle....
Get in touch with the University of London Accom. Service, they have lists of approved properties.