Hi! no, sorry it didn't work out. And strangely with a rush I realised that it was nothing deeper than an admiration of a specific quality in X.

Embarrassing but have bounced back and am not avoiding anyone or any place or anything!!

how are things going with Mr X - did you ever get around to having that coffee? hope so.... I would love happy ending for you this Valentine's x

Another edit: When X came by, friend was there.

when X left, friend blushed and gushed and said two words - "he cares"

I said what??

She said "i saw his look. he was looking at you. It just showed2

Of course friend is just like me and hence reading wrong things.


Also X is usually around but today and lately he keeps sitting elsewhere.

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What happened is this -

X came by for 5 mins to ask me if I was going to do 'Y issue' on my work. I said ' "no, i am too scared of the demands of Y task, and i dont think I can do it"

So x said "I am sure you'll do great, just go ahead. go for it. unless..there's some other reasons for not going for it?"

So i said "no, am just not confident enough for this task"

Then X said "you should go for it. Absolutely" and we dropped off and I left.


Then, minutes later I dropped X a text saying "can we go for a tea today or tomo? never mind if no time"

He replies saying "you still worried over Task Y? dont, you'll do a great job, I think you should try. I have a job to do now but will drop by tomorow and we can discuss it"


So i replied saying "uhm, not about task Y actually, just wanted a chat"


So X replied syaing - "I am going to come back tomo. Just that there's this job i need to do now. I will see you tomoro"


So that was the thing.

Is that a firm NO or a subtle NO or am I an idiot?



Edit to addd: X in his replies kind of kept mentioning that he will driop by, nothing about coffee. Perhaps *thats* the hint of the NO.

I agree with Slizor, the reply you got did not sound like a no, it souned like a misunderstanding. Remember men are often quite unsubtle about these things. I appreciate this may be hard between two quite serious work minded people in a work related environment to connect on another level. I think maybe time to send the friend also

That doesn't seem like a no, that's more a "he has no idea". If it was a no (and he picked up on the subtext) then he wouldn't have said anything about tomorrow.

Send the friend Bug!

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He's said no to the coffee in a subtle way. I asked him. He replied 10 mins later thinking my question was about some work crisis we had been discussing today and said he cant make today but tomorrow he will drop by to discuss it.

that's a way of saying no. I wasnt writing about the damn work crisis.

Anyway, now I know it's a no, I can resolve my head. Or perhaps not.

Cheers all,

Bug.

'The birds are singing, the horses are neighing - they're all just in love.'

If nothing else comes out of this thread this will keep me laughing for days- all praise Wally!

Oh wally wally wally you are soo sweet wally dear

You are so wonderful!

I am saving the poem. I will read it again, Oh thank you!!!!!!!!

And oh those lovely things you kindly siad of me, I just hope he sees them!

Awww...this story warms the cockles of my heart. And timely too, as it's almost Valentine's Day. I do think that you're taking a rather good approach to it, Bug. Just be careful though, in case it doesn't end how you want it to. This seems very unlikely though, because you've got everything going for you: kind, compassionate, very clever, dynamic, fantastic career potential, determination. And I can tell that just by your posts and how you write, so imagine how much better you must be in person. If he asks for references or a letter or recommendation (this is academia after all), PM one of use and we'll see you right!

In the interests of procrastination, I sense it is a fitting time for a poem about this...

Bug has got her eye on a guy,
But are her notions of affection just pie in the sky?
She's clever and she's witty and she's all that,
So if the guy's not interested he needs hitting with a bat.

The groovy train of love is calling at Station Bug,
We want to sing, we want to dance, we all want to hug.
Bug, Bug, Bug - she's in lurrrrve.
The birds are singing, the horses are neighing - they're all just in love.

We may be in recession and things may seem hopeless,
But Bug's bank of love is in surplus.
So all together, I hope you can join me by my books,
in wishing Bug the very best of luck.