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Quote From human:
Understand your pain as I am also funded by my supervisor directly! She also uses the grant to control/threathen me!

What did your head of department say to defend him? To be honest, if your department (especially the head) tolerate this type of behaviour in supervising, I don't think it's healthy for you to do your PhD there.

Another way is to report this to the welfare officer or vice chancellor if you feel your department is not looking into this issue properly.


Hi,

Thanks. It is a good idea :)

Bullying controlling PhD supervisor
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Quote From human:
To quote Albert Eistein, "“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything”


nice one! High five !

Bullying controlling PhD supervisor
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Quote From MeaninginLife:
Hi LilyLily,

In a sense, your supervisor's tactics have worked! You've publishable results in first year of research under his "guidance". You may become like him one day because his micromanagement helps to produce many publishable results within short period of time.

Some teachers who have gone through "punishment" may believe that this is a good way for personal growth. Your supervisor may have undergone similar treatment when he was a PhD student...

Your situation could be worse if there is jealousy because of your PhD in another field or your look suggests you can be bullied? Just another guess.

But you should submit your results for publication before making formal complaints. Meanwhile spend more time with other professors or Head of Department... Actually, you could request for change of supervisor and work with minimal guidance. Later, just let him know that you're not unhappy with him, but you need a more positive environment, something similar to your first PhD.


Thanks for your message and your support. Sadly I cannot change him. My scholarship comes from his grant. But I will resign unless he starts to be a human (unlikely).

Bullying controlling PhD supervisor
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Quote From human:
I am glad you took that action, I wished I have done the same as you before it's too late.

I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you, in fact, you seem to be a very understanding student!

Also, it's likely that you are not the only victim, but you are probably the only person who made an official complain- well done on that.

There are too many people like this in the academy, and no one is doing anything abou it, it allows these people to think it's OK to use their power to bully their students, or intimidate other young and talented researchers.

I hope your department can look into this soon!

Please keep us update on how it goes, and well done again for making the academy a better place!



Many thanks for your kind supporting reply. I talked to the head of department and he seem to be defending my supervisor. I feel being victimised but I gonna see a solicitor. Sadly my scholarship comes from his grant not from the university. Conclusion: never accept scholarship from supervisor grants since they will use it to control you :(. I will resign if they cannot make him be a PHD supervisor not an early childhood teacher. ;). It is so toxic for my health as I was told by medical professionals.

Bullying controlling PhD supervisor
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Quote From MeaninginLife:
One physics professor told me he often "bullies" gifted high school students during their science projects. It is his belief that stressful environment can stretch the students to their fullest potential. Your professor is likely someone who pushes himself a lot too. Don't take it personally.

Perhaps, your PhD is about some theoretical simulations on condensed matter physics or fluid dynamics? Don't see any point for you to proceed with a second PhD. There could job opportunities for you to apply your knowledge in physics and computer science to simulate global financial markets. Just a backup plan for you.



Thanks for your reply and kind advice.
Well, true, I do not need another PhD degree. I started it only because I loved it. But this bullying has been so damaging to my health and my self-esteem in Physics that I cannot help but take it very personally. :(
I would love to apply my skills to any area specially finance ( I know how cool it would be) but I also want to do my research. I have spent one year on this research and I have produced many publishable results. It is just hard to leave it, but if he wants to continue to bully me (which I am sure it will be the case), I will leave as soon as I proceed with my complaint. I will not subject myself to this illegal treatment but I like to know why he is doing that? why me? I have never disrespected him and I did everything he wanted (although it was mostly stupid). Do you think that he suffers from some sort of mental disorder and enjoys hurting people??? He humiliates me about things I expect to be rewarded. He sends me more unpleasant hurtful emails when I am on a sick leave! So recently whenever I am sick, I take an annual leave so that his "problem" is not triggered. If he suffers from some mental issue, then there must be ways to help him and consequently help me and others?

Bullying controlling PhD supervisor
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I am doing a PhD in Physics and my PhD supervisor has been bullying me for nearly a year (i started last year and he started to bully me when i was a few months into my PhD). I have been very stressed and unhappy about it and had to see doctors. He likes to control every small trivial tiny aspect of my work, like tiny issues in my plots. He micromanages me so much that I feel like I am a 5 yr old. He requires me to ask his permission *before* I do any calculation. He interrogates me in our weekly meetings like I am a criminal. For example he asks me to repeat what he just had told me! He intimidates me by questioning me like a silly child. He tells me I "exhibit lack of judgement" and I "overestimate my abilities" and so I have to do some "soul searching". He hugely criticise me for every tiny issue and requires me to overwork to the extent that I often have no time to eat lunch and I have to work at night and during weekends. I have already another PhD in computer science (this one would be my second PhD) and I have got a very great track record in computer science but he even undermines my computer science knowledge constantly (he even does not know a programming language,little about statistics, but he is a good physicist). I receive really very good feedback about my current research from everyone in the department except him. I have respected him too much till recently and never objected till a few days ago. I am making formal complaint against him as he seem to become more controlling and bullying day by day. I am wondering if you have any idea why he is so controlling and bullying? Other students also find him very controlling but not to this extent. Do you think he has some sort of personality disorder or what??? Any advice?