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Thread: 3rd year graduate student- Really tired of my lab and thinking in leaving research

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07-Apr-19, 15:59
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posted about 1 week ago
Quote From tru:
On your travel grant, just apply for it and see what happens. You should attend at least one conference, regardless of what your supervisor thinks, so just apply and if you get it, attend it.

Finish your PhD. You are very far along and near the finishing line. You can finish your PhD and then leave academia research. There is a huge world out there for fresh grad PhDs who wants to pursue non-academia careers. Like industrial postdocs position by pharmaceutical companies, data analyst, product development scientist, etc. So many possibilities. But finish your PhD first.


Thanks so much!! It is great to find support and possibilities outside a PhD...thank you for the ideas in your message, I absolutely will do research about possibilities after a PhD, I was thinking about applying for a industry position as a postdoc or other related with administration, I am trying to not depend on this bad experience but I am not enjoying at all my PhD so maybe that means that I do not enjoy research as I thought.

Thanks again!!

Thread: 3rd year graduate student- Really tired of my lab and thinking in leaving research

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07-Apr-19, 15:56
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First of all, dont worry you are not the only person who get tired from academia, you can see how many stories. All I can say it fake and hypocrite system with some useless supervisors. My advice is: go forward dont let any thing stop you, the most important that you have to desire to finish and get out of this place and this is must the driving force to go forward and not losing the three years you have spent. Dont worry if your supervisor is jealous, just ignore him completely and dont show challenge or something, show that you are indifferent. Do your best to get funding through university, conference or asking them to be a volunteer, you can dig in to find an alternatives to support yourself.


Thank you so much for this message!it gives me energy to continue, I am trying to be indifferent but sometimes it affects me but it is fine, I have a great support outside the lab, great husband, family and friends so that at least is the best that I have! I am learning that sometimes a PhD is a matter of be a strong person and learn a lot about yourself!
Thanks again!I really appreciate this message

Thread: 3rd year graduate student- Really tired of my lab and thinking in leaving research

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05-Apr-19, 20:06
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Hi everyone,

It is being hard this year after and before my candicay and now that I passed that phase and I am working on my project and I am more focused on finishing (that´s my goal every day) I am thinking on leaving science due to the very bad experience in the actual lab that I am doing my research.
The last thing is that I am going to send an abstract for a poster in a conference and my lab does not have money, so I am asking to my university for a grant that they have for travelling expenses (and the same conference have awards fro travelling expenses too) and students told me that is pretty easy to get funded for that concept.
My advisor did not show any excitement about it or any support when I told him that maybe I can go if I get those grants awards, in fact I think or it seems that he is jealous that I can go to that ( I will be when the time of the conference in my 4th year and I did not go to any conference!).
It has been a real struggle being here everyday, I am happy about thinking in graduating and leaving this place, and also thinking about leaving science, I am realy tired.
I will think about this more along (I hope) my last year because a bad experience cannot make me decide about my future but I am not enjoying my graduate time in the lab, at least I have great friends outside...

Anyone with the same problem?Has anyone thought about leaving research?

Thanks for the support.

Thread: Achieved my goal even with the lack of supervisors

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27-Mar-19, 15:51
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Congratulations!! YOur story is very inspiring for me and every student tha can read this!!!
I have that too in some kind, my co-advisor usually tells me you are not ready yet, you are not ready to do your candidacy presentation (I did it with a lot of compliments from my commitee), you are not ready for your candidacy exam (I did it, I prepare it in a week and passed it with great compliments again).
I can continue like this, I have feedback from my advisors I cannot complaint about it, but sometimes the feedback is full of huge negativity and not supporting at all, BUT it does not matter if you believe in yourself and do nod let those comments get into your head, although I am tired!!!!! but I plan to graduate in one year.

Thread: 'Metoo campus'#

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27-Mar-19, 14:37
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Hi puccagrannie,

Thanks for posting this, I think that is very important to have visibility in this issue, and not only students between students suffering sexual assault, you have to deal with advisors and professors where sexual assault to students is very usual and nobody talks about it, and they protect each other, it is kind of crazy but I hitnk that students have to start supporting each other as a community when those cases arise.

Thread: Sexually harassed by postdoc supervisor and forced to quit.

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18-Feb-19, 20:29
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posted about 2 months ago
I am very sorry that you have to face that. I had some troubles with my PI not that huge though...he was really enjoying time with me, testing me messages when travelling with his wife...making me really uncomfortable, I never said anything to him but I started to be very rude to him and no smiling...nothing...it is being two years and our relationship is not bad but neither good, but I prefer it in that way. He sometimes makes bad comments about me or my work but I do not care, I just want to finish my PhD and leave. I am thinking about writing a complaint a letter after leaving, I am not sure yet but maybe I will do it.
This is happening in US and I have help from a student therapist.. I think that therapy should help you to get your confidence back and see that not everyone is like that and if you like research do not let that experience to take you apart of what you want, work in yourself and take some time to recover to come back stronger, I am sure it will work.

Thread: Pregnancy during PhD: dealing with chemicals and advisor

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07-Feb-19, 20:59
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Hi everyone,

I am a third year graduate student and I am pregnant. I do not know if anyone here has been through a pregnancy while doing her PhD, but I wanted to ask how your advisor react ti to that and if you still work facing chemicals that are dangerous for the pregnancy.
I have a lab partner that she is decided to help me with every chemical for me to avoid so she is being great to me, but my advisor still thinks that I can manage them under the hood.
I am going to talk with a guy from lab safety to make us clear what to avoid from the lab but I did not know if I should talk to him privately to just make sure that tells my advisor that I should avoid chemicals in every way because the hood does not protect us 100%. My advisor takes the pregnancy news pretty well but still seems that he does not understand how dangerous can be the exposure to certain chemicals (because security in the lab is not his thing in general...)
Does anyone here have a experience with being pregnant and dealing with dangerous chemicals? How the advisor react to it?

Thanks!!

Thread: I'm failing grad school

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19-Nov-18, 22:40
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posted about 5 months ago
Hi doradorawis,
I am sorry tohear what are you going through, it is really hard but I think that you should expalin to your advisor what is going on with you, because he/she should know your personal situation and how is affecting you, and your advisor can talk with someone of the board or department and give you a second chace or advice about it, and look for a counselor, usually every university has one.

Hope to help and think doing little steps.

Thread: Should a budget for a grant take account for the PhD student as rise stipend or a bonus?

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05-Oct-18, 22:04
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posted about 6 months ago
Thanks rewt for your response! I will leave after my graduation I do not discard a collaboration in the future but I would like to change, I am international student so I would like to try other labs, if they offer me to stay for a postdoc I will think about it but my idea is to leave.

Thread: Should a budget for a grant take account for the PhD student as rise stipend or a bonus?

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02-Oct-18, 22:15
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Hi rewt,

Thanks for your response, so I am the only graduate student at the lab :/ but it is fine, I know that the university/country sets the stipends but it will be nice to write our budget outside our stipend, but my PI did not ask.. it is ok!
Do you mean about the post-doc opportunities like if I come for a good lab with grants it will give me more opportunities to find a good place?

Thanks!

Thread: Should a budget for a grant take account for the PhD student as rise stipend or a bonus?

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02-Oct-18, 17:57
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Hi everyone,

I have this doubt because my PI just got a grant with A LOT of money, it will be this first year and it will continue for five years depending on the progress.

We are a team of several people and everyone is getting their part (as raising salaries) but I did not have anything on it except my stipend that will be the same. I have fees to pay but my PI told me that the budget is already closed and that he did not know that I got those fees to pay, but nobody asked me about my own budget to include it in the grant and I did not know that I could do that (like ask for some fee payments or raising my salary).

I understand that the grants are what we get our stipend for our PhD but it is anybody that knows if it is possible to raise the stipend or ask for a student budget? just to have that on mind for the next time because I struggle with my stipend every month.

At least I asked to my PI to go to conferences with everything paid.

Thanks!

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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22-Aug-18, 20:59
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posted about 8 months ago
I was reading the other messages (sorry I missed one from you pm133) and well...I am uncomfortable because I think that he has feelings or he likes me around him. One morning that I did not say ¨Good morning¨to him he told me literally ¨the next time that you arrive to the lab you come and say good morning to me because that makes my day¨so i was really confused about it at the moment but now I think that it was really odd/creepy. His comments and not only the text message saying good morning in the sand of the beach at 7.30am that I can deal with that, is the way he looks at me (I usually put my lab coat to avoid his looks), I try to wear clothes that are not like marking my body, etc...I have to change my normal behavior because of him and that is not fine...I cannot tell him ¨what are u looking at?¨ I mean I can but I do not know the consequences...he is old and I think that he is bored and whatever, but this is unnecessary. The way he treats me now when I stop playing ¨his game¨and I am not nice to him is consuming me because I am not being myself, and that is a kind of abuse.
He never touched me or hug me or any personal contact (I am grateful for it) but I think that there is a line that you cannot cross...comments or behavior can be abuse.

I think that talking about him about I am not fine with this kind of comments it is necessary, I am waiting for a next time or maybe use the other person that works in the lab (but they like each other a lot...) as a witness of the conversation if I do it...

Thanks again and sorry for all the messages!

Thread: Am I screwed? :( A year in, still zero motivation, not happy with progression...

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22-Aug-18, 20:39
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posted about 8 months ago
Hi Cad,

I am in that situation sometimes, I am a third year PhD student, and the two first years I had a lot to do but sometimes was really boring and zero productivity. I think that they gave you a lot of good ideas, you can have something else to do apart from the lab (I am doing gym time for example) and maybe go out with another students and you will see that they feel like you a lot of times.

You can use the apps that are suggested or use google calendar with an organized schedule for the day and what you achieve or not...that will give you a goal for the day/week.

I hope that it helps and I feel like you sometimes and although it is normal is better that you solve it!

All the best.

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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22-Aug-18, 20:28
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posted about 8 months ago
And it was really sad and a had a big deception with my boss, because he puts me in this lab with this co-mentor, and after telling him that I did want to change labs, that I did want to stop working here, he did not helped me, he knew that I was not fine here and he did not gave me any solution (like we can do your project or similar thing in another lab because he has another grant with other lab or I can talk to other people..) he just told me you stay/or go...and that really hurt me because I trusted him. He never speaks about it or he never asks me about ¨How are things going with this person?¨or ¨Are you doing ok?¨. I thing that this is the hardest thing that I have learned and done... I was really grateful to my boss because he gave me the possibility to do a PhD in another country but I did not expect that from him...it was like throwing me to the lions...and zero responsability... your student is telling you that she is not doing fine and you do nothing??

I am learning a lot from this experience, it is being an eye opening experience...but I did not recommend this to anyone, at least I have very good friends at the campus (I am a very social person) and I have my husband with me and my family (at least by Skype) but my personal life goes really well, that makes me feel stronger.

But this is not over, I am not going from here without stepping out about this problem with my co-mentor or without giving him the answer that he deserves.

Thank again that really helped me.

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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22-Aug-18, 20:12
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posted about 8 months ago
Hi Tudor_Queen and pm133,

Thanks a lot for giving me a new vision of my problem, it is difficult for me to speak up, when I was growing up, nobody showed me to defense myself or speak up when I had a problem and it is related with abuse. That is not an excuse to not doing it now, but it is a behavior that I learn...be silent and not do any noise, and I hate that part of myself but I am learning how to deal with it. I started (a long time ago) individual counseling in my country and now here, I am working my confidence and it is working (although it seems that not), I have told a lot of times my conflict with the project and how change it and put some of my ideas, it work partially but it worked. I talked with my boss about my situation in the lab like I am not fine in that lab, I do not like the project or the person with I am working...but I did not have any solution...you stay here or go in a lab with a new project, and believe me, I tried to move to another lab and every person that I talked with was stopping me...trying to convince me about staying (and this for an international student I can tell you that is really crazy/hard stuff).
They told me that is not good for the CV to change labs in the middle of your PhD. I do not know if this is true...but I am not from this country and I do not know the rules.They told me that if I was preparing a paper my name would not be there if I go and going to another lab will delay my PhD for a year at least (I did not care about this).

I am speaking out but this personal things, I have never told to my boss or as you know my husband, I thought that I could manage this without freaking out, now after reading you guys I can understand that this behavior is not ok and I this situation has to change.

pm133 you do very good with your kids, I will do the same when I have mine...growing up without confidence is really hard and it follows you the rest of your life until you start working on it. And absolutely, I will use my husband next time!! I am a fighter and I did not want to change my project because I have a creepy guy around me, it is like you do not win I am!I think that this maybe could be the principal reason of why I am still here.

Thanks so much again for the support and for listening. I will continue fighting! And trying this new things that you gave me.
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