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Thread: Conference abstract - different results/changes

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26-Aug-18, 12:31
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posted about 4 months ago
Cheers. I've sent the email now. It should be fine. The results aren't actually that different (just a bit of a shocker when you realise you should have done something but didn't!)

Thread: Conference abstract - different results/changes

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25-Aug-18, 17:20
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Phew - thanks. That is half my nerves settled (I have no idea how I actually slept last night).Now it's about having the balls to tell my mentor (at least as I see her) and co-author on this that I got it wrong / didn't do it thoroughly enough (i.e., checking out the models and trying other things) and here are the new results...

Thread: Conference abstract - different results/changes

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25-Aug-18, 09:10
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Makes sense. What about the conference abstract? They're not usually published at this conference, but this year it says they'll be made available in the online program.

I'm thinking I might have to withdraw it, if they won't let me change it.

Thread: Conference abstract - different results/changes

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25-Aug-18, 00:28
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Hi all,

I recently submitted a conference abstract (which can't be changed once submitted), but I have done some further analyses using a different statistical model that yields some quite different (but more valid) results.

Any tips on what is best to do / anyone know how this kind of thing works?

Thanks!

Thread: Mphil scenario

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24-Aug-18, 23:45
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posted about 4 months ago
Ha! Can just imagine it! :-D

Thread: Where to do my PhD Studies?

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22-Aug-18, 23:22
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posted about 4 months ago
Could you visit the two cities? You might just way prefer the feeling of one of them, and kinda see yourself living there! All best!

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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22-Aug-18, 23:08
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posted about 4 months ago
He sounds like a creepy specimen! Just a bit of advice... because the things he is doing that make you uncomfortable are quite subtle, you may not be able to point them out to him directly. He can easily deny anything and make it seem like you are the one with a problem.

So - another way to address this is to change your behaviour - e.g., stop smiling, stop being friendly, become ultra professional, and avoid him at any cost. When he says something like about saying hello because it makes his day, just pull a face that says "this is pathetic / I have no time for this", and whatever you do, don't smile. When he texts you, do not reply. Tell him that email is the preferred method of contact - and stick to that. Delete his number and never reply to a text (if he texts about something related to your work then just reply by email).

Actually, I think that just doing the above might be enough to get the message through that you are not interested/going to tolerate it. It may be more effective (and easier) than trying to have a conversation about it.

If you do change your behaviour in this way, then don't be surprised if he asks you about it (e.g., "what's wrong?" "have I upset you?" "I liked it when..."). But you can be prepared for that. Again, no smiling or unnecessary friendliness. It might sound harsh, but those things are just nonverbal behaviours that can encourage unwanted attentions.

If you are anything like me, you might have to practice not smiling, as it can be a natural thing to do when communicating. But it truly does send a strong message if you can just look busy, frowning, looking away and glancing at the door or your watch, and like you are not at all interested in his flirtation/overtures. He will soon find someone else to satisfy his boredom/fantasies!

Good luck! :-)

Thread: Mphil scenario

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22-Aug-18, 20:15
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posted about 4 months ago
And somehow, that helps! (not trying to be dramatic - just ran out of space)

Thread: Mphil scenario

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22-Aug-18, 20:13
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posted about 4 months ago
Quote From eng77:
You know sometimes I feel we have rich discussions in the forum which are impossible to have with colleagues and friend.


I agree! I don't think I could have got such rich and varied insight about many things PhD-related had I not been on this forum :-)

Quote From eng77:

I think I got a better understanding of the situation. I am not fully aware why your PhD did not go as expected but hey. Guess what? Completing to this stage and having done work which is according to research standards worth a PhD is a sign of strength not a sign of a wrong decision. Sometimes we hope for something but we get totally different thing but it is still fine.


You're right! I do feel proud of myself for having done it to the standard that it is (or will be once I finish writing lol) even despite what I would call adverse conditions. Maybe that in itself should be enough for me and I should just be satisfied. Thanks for the refreshing comment.

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Now back to MPhil / PhD, you have conducted a research which is according to Uni standards sufficient to be awarded a PhD. So why do you want to sell it for a lower price? And hey again, the PhD title is important. We have gone already long discussion abou it but a last reminder. Do not be the researcher with the "special" title. I have MPhil because blablabla. I started a PhD but .... I plan to do a PhD soon. Being "normal" sometimes helps.


You are probably right! I am beginning to think that completing the PhD and putting it behind me will open more doors than trying to start another one. Somehow sharing how bad it has been / how I feel about it and getting people's views and feedback on here has sort of validated how I feel about it. Somehow it has separated me from the PhD (i.e., thesis produced in a given context).

Thread: Mphil scenario

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22-Aug-18, 12:27
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I am still in the decision making process. Summarizing pros and cons is helpful but I think the main thing is minimizing risk. I.e., Do / can I have something else lined up before leaving? Or is there something lined up for me if I complete the PhD (e.g., something more could come of some of the separate work I am doing with people away from my institution - and it may be better to just finish the PhD and move on to that rather than "stepping backwards"). My decision may end up depending on the (hopefully tangible) prospects of those two things.

I was only banging on about my situation and thought processes (in the last reply) because I felt the need to explain the situation better because I didn't find the football analogy quite fitting (although I could see where Eng was coming from). I'm not stressed about it now... just letting it mill around in my head and seeing what sorts of things I can find out / potentially secure while I come to a decision.

Thread: Open Science / "negative results" / a vision of the future...

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22-Aug-18, 10:36
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posted about 4 months ago
Just thought I'd share this paper I came across. Have only read the abstract so far but it looks promising...

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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22-Aug-18, 10:33
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posted about 4 months ago
I totally agree, and I hope MyWorld does something like that, and that it works well.

These power issues are massive and pervasive throughout society. Abuse is rife! Yes, people need to be empowered, and then things are going to change.

Thread: Mphil scenario

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21-Aug-18, 22:45
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It's as though I've been tied up and blind-folded, and the ball I was given is actually a volley ball, and has no air in it. I didn't sign up for this. It isn't football. I don't feel like scoring. I want nothing to do with the whole set up. Whatever the quality of my goal, it doesn't represent my ability or my desire to play.

That's sort of what it feels like if going with the same analogy.

But if I go through with it, hopefully I'll end up moving on to somewhere where I can really play football. And what you've written is absolutely my attitude in general. It's just that this situation feels different. Like I've been sold short somewhat (a lot). I don't want to go into the details of it, as I don't want to feel sorry for myself or get anyone's sympathy. These things will soon be behind me. I just feel the need to explain that it's not just an attitude issue like in your original analogy (although I admit my attitude has been challenged by it all).

It's like I was aware from day 1 that things weren't right (for me). But I thought sticking it out and trying to adapt myself was the wise thing to do. And now as I near the end, I sort of am thinking: hang on a sec, was sticking it out really the best thing to do? Absolutely not. I should have secured something else and left! Like in the lab I visited... Where I actually learnt things! Oh, what a fool I've been!!! Oh but hey, maybe it's not too late... I could downgrade to mphil even now... It's not too late...

That's been my perception of the situation, and then my recent and somewhat sudden (and perplexing) thought process.

Thread: Mphil scenario

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21-Aug-18, 20:17
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posted about 4 months ago
Thanks :-)

Thread: Dealing with "sexism" in the lab

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21-Aug-18, 20:16
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posted about 4 months ago
I've read into the OP's account and interpreted it for what it does sound like - but you're right - it is ambiguous. Very tricky situation.


Quote From pm133:
I don't think the point about being "powerless" to speak up is good enough for grown adults to be relying on.


This is the way it is, sadly - when so much is at stake. Sometimes a person's own reputation and career are in the hands of another (i.e., they have the power to harm in some way). It's not just a matter of not being shy or something. Otherwise harassment wouldn't even be an issue, hardly. It's a complex and difficult thing to do in some circumstances. Speaking up isn't as easy as it sounds.
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