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Realised what supervisor's problem was...

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So a while ago I was having a dilemma about potentially changing supervisors because he was unresponsive and hostile when I tried to bring it up with him. All is good now as I did change supervisors, but I think I have figured out what the problem was and I'm just so mad and need to rant!!

I think I said before, my friend is also his student and *very* close to him. A while ago when we were both his students, she asked me if I would come with her to his house because he asked her over for dinner and she wasn't comfortable going. I didn't want to be involved or know any further details, so all I said was no. But when I recently had a catch up with her and told her about my change, she told me that she had actually asked him could I come to his house too, because she asked him before she checked with me and realised I didn't want to!

It sounds to me as though he thought I had a crush on him and that's what made him so strange towards me.I know it's best to forget it and I am so happy with the new supervisor, but I really wish I could clear my name!! I also wonder if him and my friend are going to get into trouble if they carry on like this. Either way I guess I'm best off steering clear and keeping my mouth shut?

S

I read your initial post after reading this one and to be honest I wouldn't bother bringing it up again. Just be glad you have new supervisors with whom you can have a normal professional relationship with. I think that if your previous supervisor really did think you had a crush on him he should have just talked to you instead of being weird about it. Just by laying some ground rules down about professionalism in the workplace or something similar. Clearly he is not so professional with the other PhD student anyway so you are better off not getting mixed up in anything like that. Hope that the new supervisors work out well!

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