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Thread: Is this an advisor "red flag"?

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31-Aug-19, 12:31
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posted about 3 months ago
Your last two sentences sum up the problem here.
That sounds like a huge number of emails for you to be sending.
A PhD is completely different from industry and you would be expected to be more independent.
To give an example, I met with my supervisor once every 6 to 8 weeks for about 3 hours with only a single email summarising my progress and to book him for a chat. He didn't expect to hear from me anymore than that and if it had been up to me I'd have kept our meetings to once every 6 months and only when I needed it.

I don't think I ever got a response to an email unless I was setting up a meeting or asking him a rare direct question.

Thread: PhD has made me nuts!!

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27-Aug-19, 20:51
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posted about 3 months ago
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As for you quitting, maybe you should make the decision to do so but don't tell anyone for 2 months.
Then see how you feel. Honestly if you hate the process, don't care about the certificate, don't want to use the qualification and it's affecting your health and your relationships to this degree then I'm struggling to see the value in continuing. Alternatively, you could list 3 good reasons to put yourself through this absolute hell. Not wanting to feel a failure is not a reason.


I know it seems absolutely crazy to continue and I'm not fussed about people knowing I've quit, none of them have been in my situation so they can keep their opinions to themselves.

I just feel that to quit now, so close to what could potentially be the last hurdle would be a bad decision and would mean the past few years of putting myself through hell would all have been for nothing. Plus I am really excited about the findings, my external examiner said my findings have been found before (in dogs) so are not novel but she can go to hell because dogs don't count lol.

I am considering making an appointment with my GP but I know he will only offer me anti-depressants and I don't want that.


Tell your GP you don't want antidepressants and you will be offered alternatives.
Don't delay making the appointment thinking this would be a problem.
It might take a few weeks to get this setup so I would recommend that you go ahead with that. At least for your family if not for yourself. This must be pretty hard on them.

Thread: PhD has made me nuts!!

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26-Aug-19, 21:33
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posted about 3 months ago
I finished just over two years ago.
I went into it for very specific reasons and I got out of it what I wanted. It was definitely worth it but I am having to cope with the aftermath which is taking longer than I thought it would.
If I was to go back I'd still do one but I would do it differently. I'd certainly resist the temptation to get as many papers out and would focus more on taking bigger risks after I got the first 2 or 3 published.

As for you quitting, maybe you should make the decision to do so but don't tell anyone for 2 months.
Then see how you feel. Honestly if you hate the process, don't care about the certificate, don't want to use the qualification and it's affecting your health and your relationships to this degree then I'm struggling to see the value in continuing. Alternatively, you could list 3 good reasons to put yourself through this absolute hell. Not wanting to feel a failure is not a reason.

Thread: PhD has made me nuts!!

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26-Aug-19, 17:36
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Just looked at photo of myself compared to one taken at the start of my PhD.
In 6 years, all colour in my hair has gone and I've lost about 4 stone.
I look like I've aged about 15 years.

The feeling of not being good enough and additionally being overqualified (even though I never wanted to be an employee or an academic anyway) didn't go away. It actually got worse and has remained so.

I also feel that stress level has not gone away. I seem to go from 0 to 100mph in seconds. I was always pretty spiky but I can nip at those around me for literally no real reason other than my stress tank being so full that any pressure tips me over the edge. To this day I won't tolerate time pressures and actively seek to avoid them.

I couldn't look at any of my PhD level work until about a couple of weeks ago when I started to open a couple of technical books related to it. So far it's OK but I can feel the pressure in the background.

The physical illness which hit me at the end of the process is still with me more than 2 years later as has the constant insomnia. If I sleep overnight I feel great. If I don't I will be physically ill until I get my cycle back again. I get about 2 good nights of sleep per month. That will give you an idea of how often I feel dreadful.

I am pretty highly motivated and I believe in getting on with things rather than wallowing in self pity and can still get things done but I'd be lying if I said that the PhD didn't change me and that I'd fully recovered. I should also say that this is the state I got into despite my PhD going very well with no major problems. If things had gone badly, I'm not sure I would have finished.

Thread: Summer Thesis Submission

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23-Aug-19, 17:49
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There is no standard timescale.
A friend of mine waited 7 months from submission.
My wait was either 6 or 7 weeks.
It took my own uni about 3 to 4 weeks to post my thesis to the external.
This phase was the worst part of my PhD.


What time of the year did you submit yours?

I submitted at the end of March and my viva was in the middle of May.
My friend submitted in August and his viva was the following April I think.
I have seen other students in my old group having their vivas at all times during the year.
The quickest I have seen was a month gap from submission to viva.

The difficulty is getting your external and internal in a room at the same time.

Thread: Summer Thesis Submission

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22-Aug-19, 20:23
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There is no standard timescale.
A friend of mine waited 7 months from submission.
My wait was either 6 or 7 weeks.
It took my own uni about 3 to 4 weeks to post my thesis to the external.
This phase was the worst part of my PhD.

Thread: Got revise and resubmit for PhD at VIVA - what to do about job?

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22-Aug-19, 10:02
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If you are in counselling at the moment and have fragile mental health, I don't see any way that you can go back to the PhD until this is sorted. Once you are well, are you sure you want to risk re-opening those wounds?
If the PhD has damaged you to this extent, is it really worth going back and spending perhaps another year or more on it?

Thread: Master thesis " help please "

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22-Aug-19, 09:57
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posted about 3 months ago
I had a year in Industry during my Masters degree. As with rewt, we got an NDA signed and that solved the problem.

Thread: PhD and PTSD from prior experiences.

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22-Aug-19, 09:55
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posted about 3 months ago
People react differently to stimuli like those you have mentioned.
Some move on quickly and others can't seem to get past it.

Really, the only advice we can give is that you seek help from a trained professional.
We mean well on here but I'm pretty sure none of us are experts in mental health so we are limited in the advice we can give.

Thread: Lost all interest after my viva!!

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19-Aug-19, 09:45
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posted about 3 months ago
Quitting is not always an easy option or a cop out.
Not knowing when to quit can cause serious long term damage to a person.

In this specific case the OP will probably not quit but it's bad advice to use phrases like that in general.
It's one thing to find positives in a pile of negatives but it's quite another to force a positive attitude when there are no obvious positives in a situation. That is the road to bad mental health right there.

Thread: Terrified of viva and supervisor making things worse

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15-Aug-19, 20:00
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posted about 3 months ago
Agree with TQ.
If your PhD work is based on some maths equations then make sure you can justify using them, what common alternatives you are not using and some simple derivations. What approximations are being applied. That sort of thing.
You might well be asked to show full derivations but there is no harm in saying sorry I cant do that.

The viva is there for you to demonstrate you have done enough work to get a PhD and that you personally performed the work.

Your supervisor sounds like a bit of a dick.

Thread: PhD after years out of study, too late?

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14-Aug-19, 20:21
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The gap shouldn't be a problem. I wouldn't have thought that you would need a Masters either unless all the positions you want are being targetted by those who have one.
Also, there is no reason to wait until next year.
Start looking and applying now.

Thread: Minor revisions - editor decision taking ages

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14-Aug-19, 09:02
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TQ, am I right in thinking that the journal has a high impact factor?
If so, I can absolutely guarantee they will be inundated with submissions from every Tom, Dick and Harry who all believe their work is worthy of a Nobel Prize and should be published yesterday.
That might explain the delay. I have known people to wait over a year to get articles in the "top" journals.

Thread: What kind of support can I expect from the Supervisor, Department, and University - MRes in Photog

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12-Aug-19, 11:02
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posted about 3 months ago
All of that will depend on the university. You should ask this question of your supervisor directly. They are all different.

Thread: Advise:Looking for a job and they request the name of my supervisor?

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12-Aug-19, 10:55
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posted about 3 months ago
Zena85, did you ensure you had some good referees before you initiated your formal complaint?
If you didn't, this could get quite difficult for you.
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