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Thread: Do family understand

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07-Mar-19, 04:14
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posted about 7 months ago
I read an article by Mary Portas who said that during your life you should surround yourself with Radiators and avoid Drains like the plague.
Great advice. Family members should never be allowed to be exempt from this rule.
Life is tough enough without carrying other people's baggage from their own unfulfilled dreams on your shoulders.

Thread: Fish or Cut Bait? Go or No? Can 2 PhD's build a life together?

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07-Mar-19, 04:07
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Your subsequent posts are ringing further alarm bells for me.
One leaps out immediately which is his apparent unwillingness or inability to express his clear thoughts to you about the choice you are facing. You call it maddening. I would say it was more than that. He has a responsiblitity to be honest and open with you. As part of a couple, he doesn't get to stay quiet on such a major relationship-affecting issue and leave you to make the decision on your own. That leaves you at risk of being accused of causing any problems which then arise.

Unless you can find a compromise arrangement you might have to decide what matters more to you - career or a relationship with this man. You have been with him for two years so you should know as much about him as you're ever likely to know. Your gut instinct should already be pulling you in one direction over the other.
There is a crude test you can do. Toss a coin and allocate career to one side and him to the other. When it lands, look at the side showing, shut your eyes and think about how you feel about your "decision". If you feel you want to change the result of the coin toss or go for "best of three" you'll know the other side is what you really want.

Thread: Fish or Cut Bait? Go or No? Can 2 PhD's build a life together?

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06-Mar-19, 11:04
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You say that you have been dating this guy for two years but you are not talking to each other about living together. Is there a reason why you are both waiting? Surely you both know by now whether you are right for each other?

I am particularly curious over why he is talking to his friends about relationship stuff but hasn't spoken to you about those things. Are you absolutely sure this relationship has a future worth risking your career dreams over? You want to be exceptionally sure of that.

You story is ringing all sorts of alarm bells.

Thread: Listing rejected funding applications on new funding application?

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06-Mar-19, 10:53
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Hi Tudor! Thanks for this. I think that could be a good idea, to just put one. They were both just 'general' awards, not specifically 'publication funding' (which is what I'm applying for) but it would at least show that I tried to get funding elsewhere. I was also planning on submitting another pending application so I'll have that on there too.


The problem is that you say they ask for details of ALL funding requests for this work. If you omit something you could be in trouble.

Thread: Listing rejected funding applications on new funding application?

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06-Mar-19, 10:52
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I would assume it was either ongoing applications or future plans for such applications. They can't be asking for details of rejected applications I wouldn't have thought.


Thanks for your comment pm133. The section asks for 'details of all sources of funding for which you have applied or intend to apply' with fields for the source, amount, whether you have applied and whether the money has been awarded ('yes'/'no'/'pending'). This suggests to me that you can put rejected awards. I wouldn't normally include rejected applications but since they've put the 'no' option, it made me wonder.


Right OK. That seems very unfair and completely irrelevant to your application but I suppose you have no choice.

Thread: Fish or Cut Bait? Go or No? Can 2 PhD's build a life together?

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05-Mar-19, 12:27
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"I'm not 20-something anymore, but I'm still a catch."

I don't have any advice to offer I'm afraid but this sentence of yours made me laugh so hard that I had to spend 5 minutes wiping tea from my screen and keyboard :-D
You have GOT to be winding us up saying stuff like this right?

Thread: Do family understand

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05-Mar-19, 12:24
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posted about 7 months ago
I have a zero tolerance policy to this sort of thing.
It's my life. My choices. People can either accept it or move on but I'm not interested in asking permission from anyone or justifying my choices to anyone other than my wife (and to be fair not to her either although she never hassles me over what I am doing).
It is incredible how many people feel they have the right to validate/critique the lifestyles of others and that includes parents.
My parents have built up a habit of sounding disappointed throughout my career and so now they don't get any information form me at all.
Just wondering what my daughter would say if I tried to pester her about getting a "real" job rather than pursuing what makes her happy :-D
If you love someone enough, you'll take pleasure in seeing them happy in their own world.

Thread: Listing rejected funding applications on new funding application?

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05-Mar-19, 12:10
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I would assume it was either ongoing applications or future plans for such applications. They can't be asking for details of rejected applications I wouldn't have thought.

Thread: The outcome of a viva was a resubmission

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05-Mar-19, 12:07
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I'm not sure your last sentence is true.
It is rare but entirely possible to have a thesis so bad that a straight fail is the outcome. You would have to have failed to show that the work was of sufficient quantity to merit a PhD and to be entirely your work to such an extent that a viva couldn't have rescued you. You'd maybe alternatively be looking at plagiarism or something along those lines (I know of one instance of this). It would need to be something fatal though.

Under those circumstances though I would have expected the external examiner to have indicated to your supervisor that your thesis was not suitable for viva rather than put you through the formality of the viva.

Thread: Am I being impatient?

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01-Mar-19, 15:04
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It sounds like you have not been shortlisted.
Sadly, like employment, most people simply don't contact unsuccessful applicants.
You should probably look elsewhere.

Thread: I Am Struggling and Don't Know What To Do

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28-Feb-19, 21:05
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posted about 8 months ago
LilyRachel,

I understand where you are coming from but you obviously understand that there are almost certainly no trained counsellors on this site. People are trying to give the OP some well intentioned help and it should be seen as that.
If someone is suicidal, talking about their PhD can do more harm than good. We are not talking about someone who is a bit low or struggling a little with depression. We are talking about someone actually considering suicide and so there is no sensible alternative than to advise the person to seek help immediately.

I am not a mental health expert but if the OP is in the UK, they could try phoning the Samaritans or other online or phone-based groups specifically setup with people who are trained to help them. That is the only sensible advice which can be given when someone talks about being suicidal. Any other advice can be potentially catastrophic.

Thread: I Am Struggling and Don't Know What To Do

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28-Feb-19, 14:45
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posted about 8 months ago
Quote From lovelylisa83:
I just wanted to come here for some support from other PhD students and I feel like I am being attacked. I have not given up, I am just coming here for support - not to be judged and told that I basically need to suck it up. I want the PhD and that is what I am working hard for.


Nobody is attacking you on here. I'm not sure where you are getting that from.
You mentioned that you are having suicidal thoughts. Under those circumstances there is only one course of help and advice open to you and that is to seek urgent medical help.
Nobody on here is qualified to give you any other advice until you have dealt with your immediate medical emergency.

Thread: I Am Struggling and Don't Know What To Do

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28-Feb-19, 00:19
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Given that you have told us that you have suicidal feelings I would suggest you forget all about the PhD, downgrades, confirmations, the opinions of your supervisor and anyone else and seek immediate medical help.
There is literally no point in any further discussion until you have done this.
Please get help now and feel free to come back when you have done this.

Thread: Supervisor publishing my data?

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28-Feb-19, 00:11
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posted about 8 months ago
nanbob, it will help your thesis to have papers published before your viva so there will be no problem in that respect. You just need to avoid directly cutting and pasting text from the paper. There is nothing to worry about here as far as I can see.

Thread: Supervisor publishing my data?

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28-Feb-19, 00:10
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Thesisisfun, I would recommend you read the original post again. Twice if necessary.
You appear to have completely missed the point and jumped in overly aggressively to a perfectly reasonable request for help.
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