Bewildered and confused by supervisor

22-Nov-19, 09:30
edited about 1 minute later
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posted about 8 months ago
Hmm, it seems that pm133 and others were expressing an opinion but also trying to glean more about the situation so they could offer advice / suggestions / support. They might have misunderstood you by the sounds of it, and vice versa. Perhaps this is also what happened with your supervisor? Not sure if you want the input but I've found that having an open and non-confrontational conversation can often be helpful in situations like this. Ps. Just read Jamie_Wizard's post and couldn't agree more.
22-Nov-19, 09:38
by eng77
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posted about 8 months ago
I would like to add that my ex supervisor hates the most when someone gives him a paper which requires a lot of proof reading or incomplete figures. He usually said go to peer colleagues and give me the paper in a state that it needs only fine tuning. You are right. The situation is not ideal but it is not that bad. He/she should have reacted better but it is still not very bad.
22-Nov-19, 09:45
edited about 27 seconds later
by rewt
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posted about 8 months ago
Quote From drwubs:
For rewt and pm133. I think you misunderstand what I was trying to say.

I don't really see how I can help you figure out what's going on with my situation

I do my best to be very clear in my communication with people

Not to be rude but if you can't explain your side of the story, it means you are not a very clear communicator.

Honestly I think your issues with your supervisor is all a misunderstanding. You both had different expectations (not assigning blame) on your relationship and it isn't working. When any working relationship breaks down the key is to understand the other persons point of view and having a honest conversation to find a compromise. I think you can fix this issue by asking your supervisor in a polite manner why do they not want you working on this paper and would he review a completed draft?

I am assuming that you have had very little contact with your supervisor since this and if so he probably does not know your concerns. He cannot change or help if you do not talk with him honestly. Though saying that your supervisor is far more experienced and you should assume he is right. Swallow your pride and try to be productive instead of vilifying him.


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