Phd and family

G

I have been admitted to two phd programs in political science in 2 universities. The problem is, I am a mother of 3 (ages, 8,9 and 10) and pursuing the phd would require me to relocate and be separated from my husband (for abt 1.5 years) till I am done my coursework. While we are still able to meet occassionally, the separation anxiety and the impact of Phd and relocation on the 3 kids worry me. Does anyone have any experience or advice on juggling phd and motherhood? Any similar experiences shared will be greatly appreciated.

G

hiya. i can definatly understand your worries. i guess it depends on the temperment of your children and how they feel about it. a phd is hard work and requires a lot of attention. i am not sure one has enough attention to give enough to a phd and also 3 kids on your own. what does your husband think? I have 3 step-children and couldnt cope with both motherhood and a phd if their father wasnt around to play a big role.

G

I'm married. No kids. We are both doing a PhD in Physics.
The first year is really hard. We just finished the course work. We barely had time to sleep during the week. I think it's going to be hard for you, but if your husband supports you 100%, you could try. Have you thought who's going to take care of everything in the house during that year? Have you thought about how often could you afford to travel? Have you asked the university if there is any problem on doing the thesis far away?

G

I too am a postgrad-parent (one and one on the way) and understand the difficulties this poses. Would you have to relocate or could you distance research? Who will look after your youngest child as (s)he is not at school age? Consider the expense of running two households. Just a couple of questions to consider. It may be wise to talk to your supervisor and explain your situation, they are often sympathetic and may be able to help/ advise. Good luck!

G

Oops, just saw childrens ages so ignore that question.
Kids are surprisingly resilient anyway.

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