I find it very annoying that my girlfriend is totally tuned in to how I am feeling. If she senses any anger, sadness, frustration she is straight on my case. Usually this will only serve to irritate me further. If you want your boyfriend/husband to talk, then just make sure the communication channels are open and wait for him to come to you. Don't pester, because its not going to help. And don't think that if he just gets happy by himself without discussing anything with you that the plan has "failed". Its just that men don't always have to talk.

Basically, I think women need to discuss their feelings a lot more than men. Because it is always in the media etc. that it is important to share your feelings and not "bottle things up" (which I agree with up to a point) I think a lot of women believe that because men don't need to talk about how they're feeling as much, they are somehow "dysfunctional". This is not the case.

The problem is exasperated by Girlfriends/Wives trying to "cure" their dysfunctional spouse by probing them for answers etc. I know this is how my relationship is, and I get irritated by always having to discuss how I am feeling and talk through how I can make myself happier. I am perfectly happy already and am capable of getting through small emotional dips without the need, or desire, to discuss things.

Leggings look good on sexy girls. FACT. For about 10 years, however, they have been exclusive to big fat mingers, on which they look positively awful. I am glad to see the fly honeys claiming them back. In order for me to tell you whether they would look good, you would have to advise me as to which category you fit into.

Yeah, thats the one. You could say he was seeking sexual gratification "INXS" of the norm

I quite like the word Misadventure as in the cause of Michael Huthings death.

Well, you say argument, I say debate. We obviously have very different views on the matter, and I enjoy tackling the heavyweight topics. So yeah, I am itching for an argument if you want to put it that way. If you are bored by the subject now, or just realise you are wrong then fair enough, but don't say you want to stop because you don't want a personal argument. That is not my intention.

I didn't personalise anything. Why not reply to what I wrote? Why not take the opportunity to educate me and highlight my naivity.

I did think that possibly eating that Hot, Sweet and Sour Chinese dish, with home made, dodgy egg fried rice, and rushing it down ASAP without even chewing the chicken about 20 minutes before I hit the sack could have been a contributary factor. I just didn't realise that choking on the stuff while sleeping was within the realms of normal symptoms.

Shawshank Redemption is a masterpiece. I read it as a secular version of the story of Jesus. Of course, Andy Dufrain (Sp.) is Jesus, bringing righteousness, bravery, grace and of course hope into a place where these atributes were absent. I am not a religious man, but the scene where he emerges from the tunnel and raises his hands to the sky with the light shining down on him sent a shiver down my spine and brought a tear to my eye.

When the Shephard (Dufrain) leads his flock (Red) to paradise (mexico) through the valley of darkness (shawshank) I found myself turning to god.

Then I remembered that God doesn't exist, and it was just a film, but a ruddy good one.

Idiosyncractic, Gumption, Hell-bent (a word?), ubiquitous, fanny

Juno, like in Shawshank Redemption? This important piece of work, I think, Highlights how easy it is for people in a position of power to exploit those at their command as a resource for thier own financial gain. Bringing in a jobseekers workforce could open the door to much corruption.

I don't think its fair to say that the government are "propped up" by people sponging off benefits. At the end of the day, people on Jobseekers allowance that are on it because they don't have the motivation to get a job probably don't have the motivation to vote either. Those that are on benefits for genuine reasons should have no reason to fear the change (though they would probably take offense to the motivation for the change)

Give people benefits in tokens rather than money. There are certain things that you cannot buy with tokens: Alcohol, Fags, Junk food, DVD's, TV's etc.

Thanks for the advice.

I am relieved, yet slightly dissapointed, that this is such a normal thing to happen.

Good name for a band by the way: Acid Feedback. I'm thinking maybe an Electro band.