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Thank you so so much for your lovely comments. Each one of them helped me in one way. In response to pm133 I should say that he hasn't changed his mind. He says in a sarcastic way that he can quit his job: meaning that there won't be any more tuition for me to go to school and same with all the other expenses. I appreciate everybody's advice. DrCorinne, thanks so much. You exactly understand where I am standing and what will be helpful. I have started to do so. Just I hope it will continue to work. Thanks again to everybody's kindness in commenting.
Thank you so much DrCorinne for your wise advice. You exactly got my situation right and I feel your recommendation will be really helpful. I have recently started to act that way and I feel it's working! In response to pm133 and Tudor_Queen, I will give you some examples when this semester finishes. Since I don't know real identities here, I have some concerns about this semester. I will soon provide some more information. Thank you so much for caring!
This is an absolutely new idea to me. I had never looked at it from this angle. He had suggested that he can leave his job and stay home if I really insist on my studies, but I was worried about our expenses. He earns the better income for the family. I was worried about my tuition, as well, if he stayed home! Plus, I would feel guilty for exploiting him if he would do so! I don't know. This looks like a paradox to me. Where is the limit of selfishness and self-devotion?
Thank you so much for your compassionate response! I will try to act according to your advice, but please also be aware that my husband does it out of his strong love for the kids and his constant worries for their future. He doesn't want to be selfish and helps me when he is home, but his job is a way that he has to be mostly out of home, so he says if both of us be inconsiderate of the children, they may become lazy and not progress as successfully as they should. That is what makes the situation complicated for me. He is a devoted father and puts children as priority in life. The difference is in our views about ways that children will succeed,
Thank you so much for all your kind and supportive responses! It feels so GREAT to see there are some people who care about my feelings. I truly appreciate it. To give you some details, we are students in the US and not the UK, so the social setting is mostly racist by nature. There are only eight students in my class and two of the ladies are even a couple of years older than me. In fact, the one who is most similar to me in age and family situations is the one who leads these racist reactions towards me. Basically, she gets close to whomever that acts friendly to me and after a few interactions with her, I see the friendly behavior of that person changed to ignorance and rudeness. I even spoke with my instructors about this because it is a real mental torture for me, and the best solution they offered was changing my major, to be able to be in another class! They said there are some other people from the part of the world where you are coming from in that other class, so you can make friends with them. I see these as racist comments. Instead of solving the problem, they offer to send me out. This society is sometimes really unfair!
Thank you so much, Trilla and CR1980 for your compassionate replies. Thank you Tudor-Queen for the link you provided. It was very similar to my situation. I appreciate it. In response to Ephiny and Dr Jeckyll, I should say for example, the professors divided us into groups of two to three people to be learning partners and every once in a while meet or call each other and check our studies together. I was grouped with two other ladies. I texted them and invited them for a coffee, but they said they are busy and would let me know when our study sessions would start. Later, they didn't answer my texts and after that, I understood they are studying together, and excluding me from the group without notifying me. It was just the beginning of the year and they even didn't know me. So I can only assume that it has been because of my difference in appearance because none of us knew each other yet. Later during the semester, whenever there is a common concern that needs everybody's approval, I am the only one whom they never ask whether I am comfortable with the new change or not. They treat me in a way as if I do not exist!
Thank you so much for all your kind messages! You gave me a strong mental support. Unfortunately, my spouse is not so flexible and believes that family should be my first priority. He wasn't happy with my decision to start studying at the doctoral level and believed it would end in my neglecting my twelve-year-old who is in a sensitive age and needs attention and control. That makes my job harder. Whenever I study during a weekend, he gets nervous and thinks I do not pay attention to them. I am very successful in my studies and do not want to give up. Just doing my best to make a balance between everything!
I am a first-year doctoral student who works at an elementary school six hours a day and I also have two children. Sometimes I have to sit the whole night studying for a due paper or post. I need some advice as to how to balance life with work and school, and also receive enough sleep?
I'll be thankful.
I am a first-year doctoral student and very excited to be in the program. We are a cadre of eight students, and the logic has been to foster an environment of collaboration among cadre mates to achieve deeper learning. I am frustrated to death by how some of the people in this group try to marginalize me and give me a sense of inferiority and being unimportant. I don't know whether it is because I belong to a minority group, or if it comes out of jealousy. Whatever it is, they make me feel awful every time I have an interaction with them to the extent that I become unable to study for several days as a result of this bad feeling. Any suggestions as to what I should do to help me?
Thank you in advance
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