Hi everyone I would really appreciate any advice on fixing this situation so that I can tidy over the PhD &also maintain a relationship with advisor afterwards.
Earlier this year we discussed conferences and summer schools which she was totally in support of and said she had some money for conferences. I was more into summer school, but she suggested one conference and said if I was interested I should apply. At the end of the meeting I told her okay, that I would modify a previous abstract from another conference and submit it for the one she recommended and she agreed. I went ahead modified and submitted and it was accepted.
So here’s the catch, after modifying the abstract I sent it to the conference without sending it to her since it was from an old conference and I also thought I had a go ahead from her from that last meeting. Well unfortunately I was soooo wrong, and when I told her that the abstract had been accepted and I was ready to proceed with payment, she was quite annoyed because she said she didn’t hear from me so she assumed I didn’t want to go, meanwhile I had submitted the abstract and it got accepted without her going through the modified abstract. I had to remind her of the meeting and tell her why I sent the modification without thinking about sending it to her and I also apologised for the omission and asked her to let me know if she wanted the abstract withdrawn but she said it was okay.
A couple of days later, I sent her a link to another conference I found and abstract I wrote for this new one. Well, she wrote me back saying there wasn’t money anymore. So I asked her to please provide feedback on abstract let me see if I can find external funding ; I couldn’t find so I wrote her back saying I didn’t find and that’s where we are at right now. I can feel the tension and I don’t know what to do

👀😏 nah. Not happening ever Eds.

Ok pheeew… she said its fine by her, she sees no problem with it and that I should not let such things bother me. Thanks everyone for being there for me. This will never happen again

Thanks cloud,RLD and hazyjane. I will try both ways. I will probably see her today and if I still sense the tension,I will just talk about it and apologise. I really hope she doesn't hate me for this 🙍

I knew that was totally wrong the moment it was done 😓😩. Thanks AislingB and Eds. I have just been replaying the incident in my head and its driving me crazy

I am feeling very blaaah right now for adjusting the strap of my supervisor’s bra strap while chatting with her; it was falling off her shoulder and she wore a sleeveless dress today probably for some meeting. It was in an office with quite a number of female admin staff and maybe a male or two. But somehow, I feel some tension between us… has anyone ever had this experience? How did you deal with facing her in your next meeting without feeling a tad awkward? I would appreciate any words. I am female by the way although much younger than her..