Mine was due in in Dec but now it's moved to Feb, but money stops in Dec so I have to work part-time soon....haven't written a complete chapter yet - just bits here and there - and still need to finish analysis! Mixed methods and still have both quant and qual bits to do. agh. Tell me stories of success.

It sounds very difficult - just as a quick point. I recently ended a r'ship (for entirely different reasons) and moved out - six months before my PhD was due in. It is a big hurdle and super time consuming but now that I am moved in to my new place I am glad I did it. That last 6 months of the PhD I feel that one needs to be quite selfish (hard to be that if you are caring for someone else) and I already feel that the independence of it all is really conducive to getting my head down and working. Just not having to come home abd cook for someone, or spend time together, etc., make it all a bit easier to prioritise work. Just a thought really. I hope you work something out that works for you both. It does sound like there is willingness to change on his part - the days of abstinence that you mentioned; this is a good sign, celebrate that success with him (if you want to stay with him), but ultimately he will probably need outside support. AA is obviously very successful for many people.

I am in the same boat - PhD now due in (following a slight extension) end of Feb next year. Still analysing, lots of writing to do, but since reaching this final stage I have really lost motivation, like the worst writer's block since the beginning! I too thought that once I only had write-up to do it would be much smoother sailing. Perhaps that time will come, when all my analysis is out of the way - I fear not though! *Tunes in to procrastination station*