This is going to make me sound ridiculous and immature, I do honestly have a lot of more important things to be thinking about, but I need some opinions!!

There's this guy that I've known, not very well, for about a year, he works near where I work and live. We've chatted on a few occasions and I get the impression that he fancies me, like he seemed to know where I worked before I even told him, he remembers everything I say, he seems to be a bit nervous around me etc....also I've caught him looking at me quite a lot. I have to admit I am attracted to him, he is so different to anyone I've been out with before, totally unrelated to academia, very 'blokey', not my usual type at all but there is something about him that I really like. I am terrible at showing my feelings and don't usually make things obvious so he probably has no idea....I just think I need to do something about it!

So girls, would you make the first move? I'm tempted to just give him my number quickly, whats the worse that can happen, but I don't even know if he's single? I'm supposed to be a bit of a feminist and believe in equality, so I shouldn't be worrying about this as its so silly and girly, but I don't want to get knocked back!!

Thanks, Nxx

*dusts off her dating knowledge*

I personally hate phone number exchanges - its awkward! If it were me, when I see him next I would just casually mention some event that he should come along to - e.g. if you go for drinks with colleagues/friends - keep it casual and if he seems more interested then (up)
Then you will find out if he is single or not.

If he is blokey, maybe try and start a conversation up about football - it seems to be a very easy subject for men to talk about. My hubs HATES talking to anyone, so he works football in to every conversation because he is comfortable with it. You could then say your tv was broken and you need a) him to fix it (although bit like a dodgy porn fim! he may think it will go further! :p ) or b) wait for an invite to watch his team with him!

However, this is essentially what I did and now I'm married to a football obsessive and means you can NEVER watch ANYTHING on tv apart from football, well maybe cricket. :-s

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MMMMM it is very nice. If I were you, I would not do anything except smiling, a very nice smile with lip-gloss, shiny eyes and flowing hair whenever I meet him. And leave him to do the first step. Don't forget to wear a lot of pink and red.

OOOooo someone has an admirer :p

Yeah those comments sound good to me... Flatter your eyelids? :p ehehe
Have a bit of eye contact going on that usually helps along

I hope he's an admirer and that I'm not just deluding myself!

Sneaks - I think I'd sound like an idiot if I asked him about football as I know nothing about it! He is quite chatty but thats generally him asking things about me, I'd get to know him a little better. Phone number exchanges are so difficult, usually I wait for them to ask me but I think I'll need to do a bit of work with this one; I think firstly he needs to know that I am interested but that feels quite awkward as well!

Just say to him: I'm going for lunch, do u fancey coming along?
Or, i'm really hungry .. i might go and get something to eat? ... are u hungry?

Or, i have a break now, i might go for a coffe if u want to come along?

Ha? how about that then?..

hi natassia
so what have you decided to do?
:-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)
satchi

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Natassia,
OK,  I think when you attracted to someone you hope that they are attracted to you? may be am wrong but, I think if someone is interested in someone, it should not take them more than 6 months maximum to show their interest?
am not from UK, so don't know the rules, but I feel it is generally the same.

Do the simple things first, like eye contact ...etc, then if not, you are the best judge.
Again, if you are working in the same place you might get annoyed seeing him afterwards, I was unlucky and one of them was just enjoying the attention and was never interested in me and had a girlfriend whilst flirting with me every day. Another one ,and for my incredible luck, got back with his girlfriend after months of separation! by the way am not ugly, but for some reason unlucky with these things. Sorry to sound so negative.
good luck

I disagree. Elaborate things such as breaking into his house and waiting lying on his bed wearing only a bow (large and red works best) will work.

While my advice above may not be top draw (while there is a high chance of success, failure comes with a charge of breaking and entering) a shot of confidence is what you need. It's no longer (if it ever was) a case of a woman being all coy and waiting for the man to make the first move. You need to seize the bull by his horn!

It never works Slizor (at least for me). my new rule is: if someone is really interested in someone they will find a way to show it in 6 months or so.

Dear I advice you to watch "The Secret" film, and learn the law of attraction. I am sure you will soon attract a very handsome man. I did that with my husband hhhhh:-x:-x

By the way, I attract him from the first second, it does not take 6 months. But after 6 months we were engaged

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Hi Natassia

I think Amanda's right - just casually ask him out for a bite to eat, a coffee, maybe a drink after uni...I hate games and women having to act stereotypically feminine - I just would not be bothered smiling seductively, fluttering eyelashes, flicking my flowing girly locks etc etc. Be brave, be mature, and casually ask him out in a friendly way. If he says no, nothing lost. But if I were you, I wouldn't wait around - just ask him.

Read the book if you must, but don't watch the programme... It's really, really corny and gives the impression that some magical book was found in a dirty cellar that contains...the secrets...to lifelong happiness. It's a bit of a (turkey)

yes, you are right, reading the book is better, if she has time