We have submitted our article to a reputed journal. Although it is our independent research with me - a graduate student and a doctoral. We received 2 reviewers' comments. One of them are very positive, he said it can be published with minor revise. The second one is very negative. From the beginning of his comments to the end, it is countless times he repeated that our work is pointless, non-sense, totally non-sense poor, careless....he even use "!!!" to describe his emotion. Nevertheless, we feel negative when we read his comment although we appreciate about his suggestions for our work. We do not know how to respond to his negative comments over our work. We are happy to receive the criticism of the reviewers but to say, the work we did for hours and months are just pointless, is really hurtful. Should we stay calm or fight back? Any suggestions
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Hi guys, I always want to work in university as a researcher, maybe a prof in a small university. I m working on my third year of Ms- phD combine and so far has 5 papers published and in submitted (2 first authors and 2 co-author). My bf is also a pHD and he wants to work in a company to get a permanent job so we can settle down soon. He submitted many applications to many companies but no positive reply :(. I thought abt apply for companies for internships but fail all. Probably because I am lack of experimental skills ( I am working in computational chemistry) and also because both of us are international students which requires visa to stay. We suffers long distance relationship since the first time and get sick of it. I want to move to his place after my phD. After a hard time of thinking, I think i only fit to the university, research and that is what I have motivations for, reading, developing ideas and writing. But the future for academic jobs are so unstable, all are contracted job and to get a permanent job is so difficult. Which means I might have to move away from him, and maybe stuck in postdoc cycles over and over again (so scared of it). maybe 2 years I am in France, the next two years I will be in china for examples. I want to have a family with my bf, settle down soon and have kids. You guys phD couples out there, please give me some advice of how you guys can manage it. Our lives are this hard to get settle down together if two are both phDs? I am so scared for our future.

Hi guys, talk abt phD and relationship. I feel so depressed :( Me and my bf suffers from long distance for years. He lives in Netherland and i am in Korea. I am sick of crying everytime I have to leave him to come back and finish my PhD. I feel so depressed right now cuz All I want is settle down but it is so hard for both. He is doing phD and trying to get a job in a company and gets rejected by almost. His resume looks so good but yeah he lacks of skills which cant have if they dont give him a job. THen I am worried for myself. I want to be a professor or a lecturer, work in university but I have to get a job near his place. I want to have a postdoc but postdoc means moving around after 2 or 3 years. THen what next? but in this job market, high possibility to get another postdoc and over and over again.... then I have to move again, then we cant have a family :( My research field is so difficult to get job in company. I have applied for many internship programs but got rejected by all without any reasons. Probably lack of skills. I plan to register two lab courses to improve myself. but I am so sad, I dont know how you guys can work it out. I dont want to live alone anymore :(