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Certainly it is not down to who has a PhD and who hasn't got one. It's about mutual understanding. When the couple don't understand each other, the marriage will fail.
Let us not forget that when two people get together, they have their own ambitions, as well as the couple's ambitions. So, down the line I discovered that my husband married me with the hope that I would stay at home, do the housekeeping, raise a couple of children, etc. When, after the PhD, I became a a career-driven female academic, his feelings changed because his 'ideal wife' did not exist. I could not compromise. That was my dream coming true. I expected him to understand and follow me, but he did not.
You have not heard from me for a while. So, just a reminder of my situation: I completed my Humanities-related PhD in early 2015. Currently, I am teaching a couple of courses at university, and my employer is even paying for my second masters degree. Sounds like a life of pure happiness, right?
Well, not quite. Unfortunately mu husband is divorcing me because he says we have grown apart. I am a bit all over the place at the moment. I try to recover. I am 36 but still attractive, I am not that old after all. I think I deserve to find someone else. I am moving to the West Midlands to start afresh. I am scared but I will survive this divorce. Luckily, I have no children.
One of the main reasons my husband decided to leave me is because he could not understand my passion about academia and my career. He had not gone through a PhD himself, but he 'sort of' supported me through the process. However, he completely lost patience in the end. After I completed the PhD and got an academic job, he was emotionally drained and couldn't do it any more.
So, I have learnt my lesson. From now on, I will not date anyone who has not gone through the process of a PhD. That sounds like I discriminate, but no, I don't. I simply feel that whoever is with me next has to share my passion about academia. They have to share this passion with me in order to understand, value and support my lifestyle. So, how do I get to meet hot academics ;-)
I just needed to tell someone.
I was still studying for an undergraduate degree on the first and second year of my PhD (I already had a first degree and a masters, but the second undergraduate programme was in an entirely different field, and it was via distance-learning). I took these programmes at two different universities in the UK, and yes, my supervisor knew about my studies in the other university. He actually liked the fact that I was multitasking, but was never happy when I delayed work! Meanwhile, I was working part-time. So, yes, studying for two degrees and working part-time.
Word of advice: think twice! Working on two degrees at the same time significantly delayed my PhD, and drained my soul... It nearly ruined my personal life too. Oh, did I mention that it also drained my wallet?
Even though I am not knowledgeable about how things work in your field of study, I feel that an Mres would not offer much in your case. Did you not have any mitigations while doing your taught masters?
I received a pass in my masters (taught course) and I still managed to complete a PhD in the end. The problem in my case was not the fact that I was having personal difficulties. It was simply the fact that I had language difficulties, and I struggled to manage my homework.
Yes, you can be accepted for a PhD with the pass Marsters. I did, but I got this degree as I was struggling with my English, not because I was not working hard enough. It did not stop me getting a PhD and a permanent academic job. Yet, do you really want to do a PhD if you are lazy? PhDs require plenty of work. Don't waste your time and money if you are going to quit the course out of boredom...
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