I also agree with everyone else. I was in a similar situation once (in a non-academic job environment) and in the end I couldn't return to work there because I felt so ashamed about the whole thing (what with my boss being the other person's brother). When the line was crossed the relationship changed from flirting and having a bit of fun at work to feeling completely sordid and embarrassed. It was a mistake on both our parts. And this was only a part-time job. The fallout of this occurring during a PhD would surely be much worse. I definitely echo everyone's advice to get the relationship back on an even and professional footing. 

Just want to say Good Luck Hairui, I hope everything goes well for you in the new place.

Hi Bismarck!

Well I just wanted to get in with a happy response first. I am a first year PhD preparing for my upgrade and I have just returned from a 3.5 week break for the Christmas period during which I got married to my partner of 5.5 years. We went through undergrad years together and now he works while I study and although he doesn't always get what I'm on about he is very supportive. Another good part of having him with me throughout this is always having him about for switch-off time, when we can relax together and watch some crappy movie or just talk plain rubbish. It's great to refresh and relax with him.

Good luck for next month!

shoop (as in 'does he love me? I wanna know')

mine

You seem to be feeling a lot better today that's great news for a start.

Reading through the comments with your husband was a good idea, and all in all when you put them across they don't seem that bad at all.

So all I have to say is well done, and again to remember never to take things personally (a thing I struggle with too).

All the best.

Smells can be so offputting, especially when they are bad food smells (although I personally enjoy cheese and onion, but only in the privacy of my own home!). But I also find if I smell something nice I lose concentration and want only to wander off to the nearest cafe for something similar!

I guess the best thing to do would be to go to who ever runs the room, the librarians even and ask what the policy is in the post-grad areas. And ask them to make it clear in the room (i.e. put up the posters themselves).
Good luck.

I love Christmas! My family is very Christmassy, and as we have some people in Scotland and some in Northern Ireland it's good when we all get to meet up, (or at least some of us) to be together. However, I haven't really noticed Christmas this year because I'm getting married on the 30th, so when the children are counting down I have 5 extra days on them! All my spare time is wedding time, has been since August! I do think the build up in the shops is far too long though, to me Christmas really doesn't kick in to around the 20th. I think the massive commercial aspect of everything does tend to put a lot of people off.

Yup definitely normal, and I love the term imposter syndrome. I get it every week, sometimes every day in one way or another. I have begun to try to not think about it, but I like the idea of the list it sounds like a brilliant confidence booster. 

I would also nod in the direction of picking the better supervisor, I've worked with quite a few different people and I feel thankful my current supervisors are my PhD supervisors over the others. I like them because we gel well in various aspects. We can have discussions outside and within the PhD, and thus the more confident you become speaking to them in general, the better your PhD will become because of it. (Simply, you won't dread 'talking' to your supervisor about your PhD and thus will get more out of the discussions that you do have).

I hope this makes sense, obviously you do need to be into your topic as well but don't underestimate the power of the supervisory relationship.

Good luck  :-)

milk

chest

(trying in vain to mix it up a bit)

sheep

colt