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Happy International Women's Day!
M

I just found some ideas on the question: How do woman celebrate international women day?:

" Take the day off, if possible. There is a nationwide protest in which women are encouraged to take the day off. ...
Donate to a local women's shelter. You can donate money, clothing, food, or your time. ...
Participate in a protest. ...
Look for marathons or walks. ...
Volunteer."

I don't know if there are any other ideas outside the box. P.S.International women day was launched in Germany in 1914 to give the women the right to vote.

Happy International Women's Day!
M

Unfortunately, we don't do a festival, although it is important to celebrate, still we shortcoming in the gender disparity and underrepresented woman in academia, we still have some segregation. I am just curious about how they celebrate? actually, I am volunteering in organizing women in engineering, I am trying to solicit funding, hopefully, we can find supporters!

Letter of reference-length
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I don't know honestly, it sounds bizarre from me how should the length of the letter be, I think the most important thing is the quality, I don't know if this is a requirement to have a one-page letter, I don't have any idea about this strange requirement. Again, it depends on how you find the letter, you can judge it.

Letter of reference-length
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I am not sure about the length, it seems bizarre! I am not aware of the UK system, logically the quality of letter is more important than the length, however, maybe someone here in the platform can benefit you more.

Rejected application
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Good points @Tudor_queen has pointed out, maybe you need a good references letters, drafting a research proposal and contacting potential supervisors. Sometimes, you cannot know the reasons of rejections, it doesn't mean you weren't good, but it may be competitive, so you have to apply to different interesting programs, approaching different, until you find a good program matches your interest.

Rejected application
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Dear Liah, don't give up, I and others have faced rejections many times, you can read our stories that can inspire you to be a patient, determinant, and persistent as well. Please always do remember that rejections are part of success, of course sometimes you feel down and maybe months, but remember this wasn't a good fit for you. I do recommend you, to apply and keep your eye around, do good research about professors that might seem interesting. You are advantageous where you can sponsor yourself and I am pretty sure you can find it a good professor and lab. Just be patient, persistent that you are going to be successful, and always there is a light at the end of the tunnel, good luck in your endeavour.

Who to put down as academic references if I am trying to switch PhD's during first year?
M

Of course, you can put any other academic references, likely your master's or undergrad's supervisor. However, it isn't an easy decision, but if you think that is a good decision go for it.

Letter of reference-length
M

What is written in the one paragraph, do you think this paragraph is sketchy or strong? if you think it doesn't show your strength, you can ask the same professor politely to amend the letter. I know how it is daunting to ask professor multiples, but you have no other options, good luck.

New Offer, and I am afraid ! How to Get rid of the ghost of Bad experience as a PhD student
M

Dear all, thanks so much for your positive words and I am thrilled by your words and advice, from heart I wish for everyone who relieved the pain of me and other students, have eternal happiness and success, you cannot how you guys help us, from my deepest, I would like to say thank you!

I Am Struggling and Don't Know What To Do
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lovelylisa83, you have to read my story, however, why your are pessimistic, you still didnot get any decision yet, keep the best wishes! In worst case, if they recommended you masters, you can find another program, you spent only one year, right? so, you can find a new place, however, you have to wait maybe it will good result that you are going to continue. You are so emotionally involved and I am the same person and I understand why do you cry, I wish I can help and relief, but please wait and keep us updated about the results, fingers crossed!

I Am Struggling and Don't Know What To Do
M

Dear lovelylisa83, please dont do that, I do feel the pain you had, and I dont any one to think of suicidal thoughts, there is always light in the end of the tunnel, you can say my story and thanks I found another hope! What ever the reasons dont lose hope, I know it is hard so much, be strong, nothing is the end of the world, there is always a light. I wish I could help as much as I can as people here helped, please feel free to share and pull out what is inside you.

New Offer, and I am afraid ! How to Get rid of the ghost of Bad experience as a PhD student
M

Just to add, I have applied for other companies, just to switch, but I have been turned down, and I do believe that I need to continue in the topic after deep thinking. The only dilemma is the financial situation, I cannot take a vacation for a long time because I am dependent on myself. I would be grateful for your thoughts and recommendations.

New Offer, and I am afraid ! How to Get rid of the ghost of Bad experience as a PhD student
M

Dear Friends,

I would like to thank you for last six months since I was forced to leave after one year in PhD although working hard, I was blamed and I was forced to be another aloof country because of the need of the money, it is also awful little payment, negative vibes.

I am always a passionate girl, belief in the power of God, and also believe that I am passionate about the topic I have been working before being forced to leave.

I have applied to many and many positions which turn up with rejections. As you may know, my mental health has been affected, and I am sorry to say that, but till yesterday I was thinking literally of killing myself, but I was not able because I still believe in God.

Till morning, I received an email that I have been offered a position and it was out of 300 applicants, I have been selected for the position, of course, I cried and I have never had this feeling regarding my professional life as I really do like my work.

I thanked God, but I did not reply yet, I am thinking again: during the interview they mentioned the project did not start yet, and from their words, they mention I am going to be the master of the project ( independent), I still have those fears, I made sure I need to do a PhD research, just working on topic I believe could help people, and hope to work with an evil supervisor who really compassionate.


The question is: the project must start as soon as possible, and I made sure I don't want to continue in this aloof country, it just like a prison for me, I don't know how to deliver that to them as they give me contract till October. The second thing is: What I should reply to them, should I take one month break? I am afraid if I told them, they may refuse, I dont know. What Guys do you recommend to me?

Going to the nowhere Help
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It hurts me rewt when I see my lab members get their PHD and I was forced to leave, am I stupid and low esteem! I think what is happening to me isnot normal, my life is strange, I really see myself cursed with a bad luck. Where am I going? My social life also strange, when I was 23 I got diagnosed with tumour and was supposed to marry and get pregnant, but it didnot happen and I am still live with that disease, why me. I know this off-topic, but I am lost with those all bunches to my face, I was a top student in my class and hardworker always, and passionate and ambitious, but why this happening, am I asking myself what is the problem, why I was forced to leave although the grants and good feedback I got, while my colleagues defended successfully, I dont see any light, it is a big failure and waste of time. I am sorry, but I am crying like a crazy, I am trying to figure out what is the problem in me as a human being, I am afraid to bring bad luck to my family thats why I am thinking the best thing I can do get rid of myself, no one would help, no therapy would help, it is a deadblock.

Going to the nowhere Help
M

Hello,

I have posted alot here and hope you arenot get furious from me, but I am struggling indeed and sometimes depression and anxiety attack me frequently, I tried to commit suicide, I cannot sleep nights.

I have heard to the advice given by you, dont look for positions, I do, and I get bored from rejections and professor although I have a permanent job in my home country as teaching assistant, but I take a sabbatical leave as I didnot learn something, awful vibes and environment.

On top of that, I had mental disorders because of my mother death when I was 18, and then my grandama who left me unstable person and the marriage of my father, all these actions made me unstable, thats why I have escaped to fulfil my dreams, but it turned out to be a nightmare.

I am working as RA in a lab now, and they deal with me in very discriminative way, assigned tasks out of my experience, they dont even know, dull environment.

I applied to industry and got rejected because I was overqualified, I tried to optimistic and accept the idea to leave my job from my home country because of the I dont want to remember these bad memories, and switch completely to industry, but it seems hard as well.


I dont know guys, I am thinking loud with you, I dont know what I should do, I cannot endure to be in something, I dont feel happy with it and in the same time there isno alternative. I would like to know what would you recommend me to do, I do like volunatry work and now I am co-organizing a workshop in top conference, but this something temporary.

I am sorry, if I cannot express very well my ideas, but I am trying to find a solution, why I am in the life? I did like teaching students and they liked me so much, but the other parts of administrative work, I didnot liked.