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puccagrannie!
we all are biased against one thing or another. From your post it seems things have been rough for you. It is very natural to be less optimistic in such situations, and when we are less optimistic, we have less energy and in that state we find it easier to see what is wrong with others.
I am sure there are biased people everywhere, biased because of skin color, biased because of religion, biased because of status, biased because of personal attractiveness, biased because of superior cognitive abilities etc etc etc
but trust me there are more nice people than biased.
I am studying in mid-west US, which can be sterotyped as a conservative place. I am a foreign student. when I landed on chicago airport the immigration officer was EXTREMELY rude to me, then another officer passed a very condescening remark at the security line, i couldnt figure out was it because i am a woman, or because i am an Asian woman....
anyway i did not pay much attention to these two indivduals, though for a moment i felt really angry but then i said no it is just my first day in US, i have to give this place a better chance, i will not base my impression on those two individuals' attitude. and then there were at least three airport officials who showed extremely courteous behavior towards me on the same day.
so lot of time people are not biased because they have certain race, religion or gender, they are just being human beings with average judgment and sense.
my point is that focus on people who are nice and generous, and more often you will see they outweigh the other kind. and also those people who come across as racist, or biased to you, are actually with that way with everyone for one reason or another, they just have attitude issues, so do not take their attitude personally.
CHEER UP :)
in this post, were you asking for an advice as what to do? or were just confirming your impressions
lot of people are telling you to stay away from this mess...but reading your post it seems you just wanted confirmation of your impressions
i hope you do not have plans to explore things further, probably you are misreading e thing, and in any case you will end up harming your career badly
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my univ is 40 miles away from the place i live. but i go to my office every day (our univ provides office space for PhD students, which is generally shared by two to three students). As I am in a U.S univ, and it is a business school, so networking and visibility become very important. Also, despite my long commute (with rising gas prices), i go to univ because i like to have another place to belong to besides my home. If i did not want regular contact with univ, I should have opted for online PhD. Also, going to univ helps you discipline yourself, like getting up in the morning, dressing up, etc etc, and helps you draw a psychological line between what is home (place to relax) and what is univ (place to focus on work). Moreover, in context of networking, i can drop anytime in the office of my colleague or faculty and ask for help if I am stuck somewhere, likewise I can be available to help others. I cannot imagine isolating myself by staying at home, I need human contact which is beyond family faces (though they are the best) :-)
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homesickness, it is very funny, when i was in my country and had to live in a hostel of university in the same city my home was in (bcz of extended hours of my torturous MBA program) in the first month i felt terribly homesick. and now i am thousands of mile away from my home in a different country, and culture, and i dont feel homesick (though i have to confess i am staying with my sis family).
i dont agree that homesickness has anything to do with being away from your home or family or country. it more so stems from feeling alienated. you can feel alienated in your own hometown (like my MBA program example, because it was so brutally competitive, that it took me a long time to feel at home there, start feeling secure, and make friends) and love a place which is thousands of miles away from your so called roots. any place that makes you feel welcome, offers you friendship and security and identity (professional or whatever) is a home :-x
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